By: Deric Muhammad
There was a time when a father’s worst nightmare was the day when his daughter comes home and tells him “Daddy I have a boyfriend”. His heart skips three beats, his throat gets dry and he immediately goes to the garage and starts cleaning that ‘ole rusty 38.
Nowadays little girls’ parents are more relieved that rattled by the traditional boyfriend announcement. It sure beats the new nightmare that too many are having to endure when their daughters come home and boldly declare, “Daddy I have a girlfriend”.
Teen lesbianism in the Black community has become so rabid and rampant. It is fast becoming the “elephant in the room” that nobody acknowledges is there. But, the elephant is getting bigger and bigger. Everywhere you go you are likely to see school-aged girls sporting sagging jeans, wave caps, fade haircuts and mean-mug facial expressions. While the uniform does not necessitate lesbianism, the girl in the short skirt that she is holding hands with usually does.
I, recently, saw a couple with their young child at Houston’s Hermann Park having what appeared to be a family outing. The child called out “daddy look at me”. When daddy turned around I realized that, “daddy”, was a not a man. Daddy was a female and that little baby girl was on her way to sure confusion.
Now let me preface further commentary by officially stating that I am not a homophobic. I am aware that this is a sensitive subject for many and I do not wish to be mislabeled. This kind of issue is also often considered a political editorial “no-no”. But, if we as a community do not face our problems squarely we can never create solutions wisely.
Truth is, we as Black men have failed our women miserably. Our mental, spiritual, psychological and emotional condition has deteriorated the hopes of some Black women so badly that some see another woman as an option. And today, an unprecedented number of sisters are exercising that option. The mistreatment of the Black female has so disgusted some of our sisters that they are turning to one another for comfort, consolation and companionship. This has been a fact for years in the hood, but never have we seen so many teen-age girls engaged in this lifestyle at such an early age.
It is a scientific, biological and social fact that “opposites attract”. You don’t have to teach a female to be attracted to the male species; her God-given nature dictates that attraction. When the natural inclination toward the opposite sex is reversed, there is a reason for that reversal. Often when a young girl is sexually molested by a man, sometimes her own father, this leaves her with an innate hatred for men in general. Sometimes a young girl will grow up witnessing her mother, who she loves, suffer extreme abuse from a husband or a boyfriend. She sees and feels the pain of women that she loves and vows to never allow a man to violate her in that way. Wherever you see a little sister who has decided to take this course in life, remember that there is a good chance that you are looking at a victim or a witness of rape, molestation and extreme abuse. It is important that you do not improperly judge her if you would like to help her.
I am a firm believer that if one wants to solve a problem; one must get to the root cause of the problem. Teen Lesbianism is not necessarily the problem. It is the result of the deterioration of the social fabric of us as a people. It is the by-product of a sex-crazed world that uses sex to sell everything from grits to garbage cans. It is the direct result of the conspiracy to destroy the Black male and our willingness to be co-conspirators in our own demise. It is the direct result of the culture that degrades women as tools of pleasure and influences our young boys to treat our young girls like things and not like queens.
My impetus for writing this short message of concern is to try and create a dialogue among us about how our baby girls are hurting. Many mothers and grandmothers are heartbroken by this epidemic and don’t know what to do. The first thing that we must do is get out of denial.
Brothers and sisters, we have to pay closer attention to our daughters. Everyone thinks that it could never happen to their daughter until it does. Do not allow your young daughters to keep company with strange men and they should never be alone with men at all. We have to guard our daughters and protect them from the abuse of men even if it costs us our lives. This will lessen the chances of teen lesbianism infiltrating your household.
If indeed you see some of the tell-tale signs, do not ignore them. Sit down and talk to your daughter and try to find out the root of what led her into such a lifestyle. Do not overreact and try to beat it out of her. Maybe she was raped or molested and hid it from you for years. If you are blessed to find the cause then you should try and get her some professional help to cope with what has happened to her. Once the healing begins then we can begin to take it further.
My dear brothers who are preachers of the gospel cannot be afraid to address this on Sunday morning. The time has come that we cannot fear the lightening of the collection plate. Yet, we must fear the heaviness of God’s wrath if we do not speak the truth that can save our people. We must use the healing power of the word of God to touch the hearts of these young girls. We must not be judgmental in our approach. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. We cannot depend on politicians to raise an issue such as this one. Most may fear that it will affect their numbers on Election Day. It is up to the men of God to facilitate the healing.
We must also develop stronger laws to punish those who violate little girls. We must teach the value of the female to every young boy so that young girls will see hope in them and not despair. The bottom line is men must be men. When we as Black men take our rightful place in our communities, Black teen lesbianism will begin to do away with itself. Please email me with your opinions and concerns about this editorial.
There was a time when a father’s worst nightmare was the day when his daughter comes home and tells him “Daddy I have a boyfriend”. His heart skips three beats, his throat gets dry and he immediately goes to the garage and starts cleaning that ‘ole rusty 38.
Nowadays little girls’ parents are more relieved that rattled by the traditional boyfriend announcement. It sure beats the new nightmare that too many are having to endure when their daughters come home and boldly declare, “Daddy I have a girlfriend”.
Teen lesbianism in the Black community has become so rabid and rampant. It is fast becoming the “elephant in the room” that nobody acknowledges is there. But, the elephant is getting bigger and bigger. Everywhere you go you are likely to see school-aged girls sporting sagging jeans, wave caps, fade haircuts and mean-mug facial expressions. While the uniform does not necessitate lesbianism, the girl in the short skirt that she is holding hands with usually does.
I, recently, saw a couple with their young child at Houston’s Hermann Park having what appeared to be a family outing. The child called out “daddy look at me”. When daddy turned around I realized that, “daddy”, was a not a man. Daddy was a female and that little baby girl was on her way to sure confusion.
Now let me preface further commentary by officially stating that I am not a homophobic. I am aware that this is a sensitive subject for many and I do not wish to be mislabeled. This kind of issue is also often considered a political editorial “no-no”. But, if we as a community do not face our problems squarely we can never create solutions wisely.
Truth is, we as Black men have failed our women miserably. Our mental, spiritual, psychological and emotional condition has deteriorated the hopes of some Black women so badly that some see another woman as an option. And today, an unprecedented number of sisters are exercising that option. The mistreatment of the Black female has so disgusted some of our sisters that they are turning to one another for comfort, consolation and companionship. This has been a fact for years in the hood, but never have we seen so many teen-age girls engaged in this lifestyle at such an early age.
It is a scientific, biological and social fact that “opposites attract”. You don’t have to teach a female to be attracted to the male species; her God-given nature dictates that attraction. When the natural inclination toward the opposite sex is reversed, there is a reason for that reversal. Often when a young girl is sexually molested by a man, sometimes her own father, this leaves her with an innate hatred for men in general. Sometimes a young girl will grow up witnessing her mother, who she loves, suffer extreme abuse from a husband or a boyfriend. She sees and feels the pain of women that she loves and vows to never allow a man to violate her in that way. Wherever you see a little sister who has decided to take this course in life, remember that there is a good chance that you are looking at a victim or a witness of rape, molestation and extreme abuse. It is important that you do not improperly judge her if you would like to help her.
I am a firm believer that if one wants to solve a problem; one must get to the root cause of the problem. Teen Lesbianism is not necessarily the problem. It is the result of the deterioration of the social fabric of us as a people. It is the by-product of a sex-crazed world that uses sex to sell everything from grits to garbage cans. It is the direct result of the conspiracy to destroy the Black male and our willingness to be co-conspirators in our own demise. It is the direct result of the culture that degrades women as tools of pleasure and influences our young boys to treat our young girls like things and not like queens.
My impetus for writing this short message of concern is to try and create a dialogue among us about how our baby girls are hurting. Many mothers and grandmothers are heartbroken by this epidemic and don’t know what to do. The first thing that we must do is get out of denial.
Brothers and sisters, we have to pay closer attention to our daughters. Everyone thinks that it could never happen to their daughter until it does. Do not allow your young daughters to keep company with strange men and they should never be alone with men at all. We have to guard our daughters and protect them from the abuse of men even if it costs us our lives. This will lessen the chances of teen lesbianism infiltrating your household.
If indeed you see some of the tell-tale signs, do not ignore them. Sit down and talk to your daughter and try to find out the root of what led her into such a lifestyle. Do not overreact and try to beat it out of her. Maybe she was raped or molested and hid it from you for years. If you are blessed to find the cause then you should try and get her some professional help to cope with what has happened to her. Once the healing begins then we can begin to take it further.
My dear brothers who are preachers of the gospel cannot be afraid to address this on Sunday morning. The time has come that we cannot fear the lightening of the collection plate. Yet, we must fear the heaviness of God’s wrath if we do not speak the truth that can save our people. We must use the healing power of the word of God to touch the hearts of these young girls. We must not be judgmental in our approach. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. We cannot depend on politicians to raise an issue such as this one. Most may fear that it will affect their numbers on Election Day. It is up to the men of God to facilitate the healing.
We must also develop stronger laws to punish those who violate little girls. We must teach the value of the female to every young boy so that young girls will see hope in them and not despair. The bottom line is men must be men. When we as Black men take our rightful place in our communities, Black teen lesbianism will begin to do away with itself. Please email me with your opinions and concerns about this editorial.
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